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Here’s to Hoping This Season Isn’t Forever

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I’m coming up on four months of being non-weight bearing.

When this all started, I never imagined this season would last this long. If I’m honest, it’s probably been one of the most frustrating seasons of my life. There are days when I wonder if it will ever end.

I’m doing everything I’m supposed to do. I’m following the plan. I’m resting. I’m being careful. My foot is healing…just slowly.

That’s one of the things I dislike most about healthcare: it rarely fits neatly into black-and-white boxes. Bodies don’t always follow timelines. Healing doesn’t always look the way we expect it to. Sometimes the only option is to pivot.

Life is funny that way.

As a nurse, I want things to be straightforward for my patients. I want clear answers and predictable outcomes. As a patient, I want the exact same thing. I wish healing happened faster. I wish hard work always produced immediate results.

But this season has taught me—or maybe reminded me—of a few things.

God is near to the brokenhearted.

There have been seasons in my life where I’ve been so overwhelmed that I didn’t even have the words to pray. If you’ve never been there, it’s hard to explain that kind of despair. And honestly, I hope you never have to experience it.

Yet somehow, it has been in those moments that I’ve understood God’s heart the most. It’s funny—even when I’ve been frustrated or angry with Him, He’s never been offended by my honesty. He has simply stayed near.

People can be the very best.

I don’t think I’ll ever take for granted the power of a smile, a text message, a meal, or a kind word again. I’ve been amazed by the kindness of strangers and the generosity of acquaintances who have offered rides, checked in, or simply sat with me when I needed someone to talk to. Those small acts of kindness have carried more weight than they’ll probably ever know.

Sometimes God slows our bodies to still our hearts.

If you know me, you know I’m a doer. I love a full calendar, a checklist, and a plan. Slowing down has never come naturally to me.

But maybe that’s exactly why I needed this season.

Atlas will only be this little once. These extra cuddles, slower mornings, and moments I never would have paused for before are gifts I might have missed if life had continued at its usual pace.

I still don’t like this season. I wouldn’t choose it. I still hope it ends sooner rather than later.

But even here, God has been faithful.

So here’s to hoping this season isn’t forever—and trusting that even if healing takes longer than I hoped, it won’t be wasted.

The Hard and the Holy

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This summer has been nothing like I imagined.

I pictured running through Kingwood Gardens with my toddler, swimming in lakes, and finally enjoying being back on two feet again.

Jokes on me.

Let me be incredibly transparent.

Transparency and authenticity are not new things for me. Since my accident in 2016, I have realized what a gift authenticity can be. I’m not saying we should air all of our dirty laundry or share every hardship with everyone in every setting. But I do believe there is beauty in letting people see both the messy and the holy parts of our lives.

For years, I looked at other people and compared myself to the polished version of them I had created in my mind. Unsurprisingly, I always came up short. Social media doesn’t help because most of us naturally share the highlights, not the heartbreak. I was recently reminded how dangerous it is to assume everyone else has it all together when we only know the edited version of their story.

What if we were just a little more honest—with ourselves and with each other? What if we shared both the hard and the holy?

If I’m being honest, I’m tired of life being hard.

I know God uses difficult seasons to shape us and refine us. I believe that with my whole heart. But sometimes, in the middle of the night, when my fears are louder than my faith, I quietly wish He would stop refining me for a while.

Don’t hear what I’m not saying. I’m not saying God caused my accident or my broken foot. We simply live in a broken world where painful things happen.

I joke that my broken foot makes me a better rehab nurse because I can better relate to my patients. Truthfully, though, my accident already taught me that lesson. So I’ve found myself asking, What am I supposed to learn this time?

Surprisingly, this season—and honestly, both of these seasons—hasn’t been about learning how to endure pain. It’s been about learning to be confident in who I am and in the skills God has given me while still being humble enough to admit I have so much left to learn. Growth requires both confidence and humility. If we stop learning, we stop growing.

So maybe that’s really the point of all of this.

Not that we have all the answers.
Not that we pretend everything is okay.
Not that we wait until our story is wrapped up neatly before we share it.

Maybe we’re simply meant to let people see the whole picture.

Because when we have the courage to share both the hard and the holy, we create space for someone else to say, “Me too.”

And I think we’d be surprised by how many people understand.

94 Days: The Hard and the Holy

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94 days.

That’s how long I’ve been non-weightbearing this time around.

I’m tired—like, really tired—but the break is finally healing, so hopefully I’ll be back on my feet soon.

Here are just a few things I’ve learned—and honestly, relearned—during this season.

Healing takes time, and it isn’t always linear.

I don’t know about you, but I want healing to happen instantaneously. That’s not how life works. Healing is a process. It ebbs and flows over time. Whether it’s physical healing or emotional healing, it takes time and patience.

The funny thing about patience is that when you ask God for it, He doesn’t simply hand it to you. He allows you to walk through situations that grow it.

It’s good—necessary, even—to let people help you.

This is a hard lesson for me to learn… and relearn.

I like to be in control, which usually means I like to do everything myself. It drives my loving husband crazy because I’ll ask him to do something and then go ahead and do it myself.

I’m learning that asking for help also means allowing people to actually help.

It’s important to have people in your corner.

I am incredibly blessed to have people who love me enough to drive me places, bring meals, check in, and encourage me.

The only problem? I have to get over myself and actually ask.

Sometimes they love me through something as simple as a handwritten card. Somehow, God always seems to deliver those cards on the days when chaos feels the loudest.

Atlas will only be little once.

This is Atlas’ childhood.

This is my motherhood.

I want to enjoy the time I get to spend with him instead of constantly rushing from one thing to the next. In a strange way, this season has been a gift because we’ve had so much uninterrupted time together simply because I can’t rush around.

There is beauty in living a slower life.

I’m not saying I’m going to quit my job or leave school. But I can’t sustain constantly running from one thing to another.

There has to be balance.

The month before I broke my foot again, I was trying to do everything. I loved everything I was doing, but I was exhausted, and if I’m honest, everyone around me felt it too.

I physically can’t live that way anymore.

Maybe that’s the lesson.

Not to stop doing the things I love, but to learn how to pace myself so I can actually enjoy them.

These are just a few of the things God has been teaching me in this season—the hard and the holy.

Hopefully, this chapter is coming to a close, and a new one—maybe a little less adventurous—is about to begin.

But if this season has taught me anything, it’s that sometimes the slowest seasons produce the deepest growth.

32 Years of Becoming

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32 🤍

It’s my birthday month. I decided to be like my 3 year old and celebrate all month long. Why not? Life is hard enough as is so why not look forward to something happy?

How am I going to be that old?

Sometimes I still feel like that awkward 12-year-old trying to find her place between cultures and continents. But somewhere along the way, I’ve grown into someone who is finally comfortable in who I am—and who God created me to be, quirks and all.

Here are a few things I’ve learned in almost 32 years:

• Be yourself. The people who matter don’t mind, and the people who mind don’t matter. (This one took me years.)
• My heart has space for multiple countries—every place leaves its mark.
• Sometimes you have to step away, put yourself first, and rediscover God in the wilderness.
• No matter how hard life gets, you are deeply loved by a Father who never lets go.
• A well-timed dance party can fix more than you think.
• God wastes nothing—He uses every part of your story for good.
• There is no such thing as coincidence—only God.
• You’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did. Be brave.
• Make plans, but hold them loosely—life will surprise you.
• Every person in your life has a purpose, whether they stay or go.
• Comparison steals joy—don’t let it.
• Be present. These moments are fleeting.
• People matter. Always.
• Talk to strangers—you might just find connection where you least expect it.
• Do fewer things, but do them well.
• It’s okay—and healthy—to say no.
• Your job is not your identity.
• Self-care isn’t selfish.
• Life is about the journey, not just the destination.
• Who you were at 20 is not who you are now—and that’s a good thing.
• Never stop learning.
• Self-awareness is a superpower.
• Hold tightly to the people who bring out the most in you—they’re rare.
• You become like the people you surround yourself with. Choose wisely.
• Distance doesn’t diminish real friendship.

32 feels different. Not because everything is figured out—but because I’m finally okay with that.

And honestly… I wouldn’t go back.

Formed in the Hard, Held in Grace

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Dear Sara,

This is me writing to you nine years after that life-changing event. Life doesn’t look anything like I thought it would, and there has been so much to learn and grieve—but God is still good in the chaos.

Nothing is a coincidence. I think I always believed that, but I’ve truly felt it lately. It’s not a coincidence that on one of my hardest days, a friend texts me out of the blue or a letter shows up that encourages my soul. Those moments feel intentional—like reminders that I’m not alone.

We need people. We cannot do life or walk through hard things alone. Yes, we have to choose wisely who we surround ourselves with, but I can’t count the number of times I was this close to giving up, and certain people took me by the hand and walked with me. Their presence mattered more than anything they could have said.

Everyone goes through something, but it doesn’t have to define you. Sometimes struggles are visible, and sometimes they’re hidden. Over the past few years, I’ve learned that I am more than my accident or my brain injury. Yes, I live with chronic pain and migraines, but those things have shaped me into a more compassionate nurse—because I understand in a deeper way.

Life is not simply about my happiness or comfort. I knew that growing up, but there’s a difference between head knowledge and heart knowledge. Life is about glorifying God and participating in His desire to rescue humanity. If God can use my story to advance His kingdom, who am I to stand in His way?

There are also people I may have never met if my life had gone differently—my husband being the most significant. I met him shortly after everything changed, and he walked with me as I was still finding myself, before I felt like I had anything to offer. We are still growing and figuring things out, but he is my person. In a strange way, my accident placed us in the same circles sooner than we might have been otherwise.

It’s necessary to put down roots—to have a place or people to call home. With a nomadic childhood, I learned to root myself in people rather than places. I’ve always wrestled with the tension of staying versus going, and I’m learning how to live in both. There is excitement in exploring new places and experiencing new things, but there is also a quiet comfort in being known—by the barista at a local coffee shop or the familiar face at work. There is something deeply human about being seen.

Hard seasons can grow me into who I’m meant to be. Don’t hear what I’m not saying—I hate hard seasons. I don’t enjoy them, and I wouldn’t choose them. But I can’t deny what they’ve produced in me. These seasons have shaped me into a better, more confident, and more compassionate nurse and person. Even now, in this season of a broken foot—again—I can see that God is still working. He’s using this hard season to shape me and teach me. Right now, I’m learning the value of rest.

This isn’t a comprehensive list of everything I’ve learned or grieved, but as nine years passes, I’m realizing that I am a complex person. This experience is part of my story, but it is not the whole story. It has made life more complicated in some ways, but it has also made me a better nurse, daughter, friend, mother and wife.

And that matters.

The Hard and The Holy

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As I’ve been thinking about life—the hard and the holy, I’ve been doing a little reflecting. December 17, 2016 will always be a significant day. On one hand, it’s the day I survived. On the other, it’s the day my life changed forever.

Here are a few things life—and my brain injury—have taught me over the past nine years:

You only live—and die—once.
This moment, right here, right now, is the only one you’re guaranteed. Tomorrow isn’t promised. So kiss your spouse, spend time with your siblings and friends, put down your phone, and show your family you care.

You can do anything—within reason—that you put your mind to.
God was gracious in allowing me to recover the way I have—but it wasn’t without tears, frustration, and yes… some attitude. (Sorry to my family for all the tears—and thank you for loving me through the pity parties without letting me stay there.)

Nine years ago, I couldn’t imagine the life I’m living now. And I don’t say that for applause. I say it to show two things:

  1. How good God is, and
  2. What determination and hard work can do.

There was a time I almost gave up on the idea that my life could look anything like I had dreamed. My brother could list all the things I said I’d never be able to do again. At the top of that list? Working as an acute care nurse.

But I did it-and I’m a Rehab nurse at that. Life comes full circle.

And it was hard—honestly harder than nursing school. I had to relearn things I once knew, all while managing migraines, needing more rest, and dealing with hands that didn’t always do what my brain told them to do.

I didn’t know what I’d be capable of until I tried.

So—don’t give up.

There are many paths in life. Don’t compare yours to anyone else’s.
I have to relearn this lesson often. Maybe you’re 20 and living your dream. Maybe life took a turn and you’re still working toward it. Maybe you married young, or maybe you’re still waiting.

There is no “wrong path” when it comes to your story. You didn’t miss your chance. Your life isn’t ruined because it looks different than you expected.

Your story is your story.
And someone out there needs it.

Rest is necessary—and good.
I’m still not great at this. I tend to go, go, go… until I hit a wall and crash for 24 hours.

But I’m learning.

I’m learning the power of a well-placed “no.”
I’m learning that rest doesn’t always mean sleep.
Sometimes it’s a quiet night watching a movie with Sean.
Sometimes it’s a walk outside in nature.

I may not love that I need more rest now—but I’m learning to respect it.

Sometimes, you have to take life five minutes at a time.
Looking too far ahead can be overwhelming. It can freeze you in place.

I’ve learned to focus on the next five minutes… and then the next.

That’s how I get through hard days.
That’s how I keep moving forward.

Sometimes love doesn’t look the way you expected.
I’m a romantic—but not the “love at first sight” kind.

In my story, love looked like friendship first.

There was a time I couldn’t imagine letting someone into my world—because I didn’t even understand my own brain yet. I was still figuring out who I was… and if I even liked that person.

But there was someone who stayed.
Someone who chose friendship.
Someone who was willing to learn me—my brain, my struggles, my healing.

I still don’t fully understand how he does it—but he does.

And somehow, through friendship, I let him in.

These are just a few of the many things the past nine years have taught me.

Brave with Abandon

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Abandon.

Not the kind that leaves you empty—but the kind that flings you forward.
This is the word I chose for my year, and somehow it already feels prophetic. We’re barely two months in, and it’s been a whirlwind of surrender, fear, faith, and boldness.

It started with panic. The clinical program I thought I had secured fell through, and suddenly everything felt uncertain. I scrambled, prayed, and questioned—until, at the very last minute, it worked out. God has a sense of humor. I think He saw me getting a little too comfortable and decided to remind me who’s actually in control. (Spoiler: it’s not me.)

Now, I’m in a clinical program that stretches me daily. It pushes me beyond hesitation, beyond comfort, beyond the safety of staying small. And in that stretching, I’m learning what it means to chase my calling with abandon.

So far, this year has already taught me a few things—lessons I didn’t ask for, but desperately needed.

First, bravery isn’t the absence of fear—it’s obedience in the middle of it.
There is so much to be afraid of, and motherhood multiplies that fear. If I could, Atlas would live in a bubble where nothing could touch him. Anxiety is my constant companion, and I work hard to keep it from shaping him. He is fearless, wild, curious—and I don’t want my fears to become his limits. Some days I succeed. Some days I fight my own heart just to let him be brave.

Second, nursing is not just a job—it is a privilege.
Yes, it’s exhausting. Yes, it’s often thankless. But it is sacred. Being invited into people’s most vulnerable moments is an honor. There are days filled with heartbreak and injustice, when bad things happen to good people. Nursing isn’t glamorous, and when you forget your “why,” burnout isn’t far behind. Remembering that this is a calling—this is a privilege—keeps my heart anchored.

And finally, balance is not optional—it is survival.
Work-life balance gets tossed around like a trendy phrase, but for me, it is the difference between being present and being depleted. Without it, I’m miserable—internally and externally. Date nights are a must, even when they’re simple. Sometimes it’s a quiet moment after a long day. Sometimes it’s takeout on the couch. The point is connection. I need time with my favorite people to be the best version of myself. I’m choosing to love them—and myself—with abandon.

We’re only at the beginning of this year, and already God is teaching me what it means to live wide open—to trust, to leap, to love without holding back.

So buckle up.
It’s going to be a wild year.

Ordinary Places, Extraordinary Grace

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Ordinary.
That word makes me flinch.

For 32 years, I’ve tried not to be ordinary—because ordinary feels too close to boring, forgettable, unimportant. And don’t lie and tell me you’ve never linked those words together in your mind.

I just finished reading Shannan Martin’s The Ministry of Ordinary Places tor the second or third time.. I originally picked it up because I love her heart and writing, but I was also curious. In my mind, ministry and ordinary don’t naturally go together.

Then I started reading.

From the introduction, she had me hooked:

“I always thought being called by God was a rare and special thing that happened to only a slim percentage of unlucky people… Whenever (‘the call’) popped up, I kindly reminded God that I’m not that kind of woman. I’m indoorsy, with a sensitive gag reflex and a mortal phobia of outhouses.”

I laughed—and sympathized—but I realized I’m the opposite. I feel the call to go. To leave. To serve overseas. But circumstances have kept me here. And honestly, I’m more comfortable on the mission field than I am in suburban America.

This tension—going versus staying—has followed me for years. Lately, I’ve felt peace about being right here, right now, in Mansfield. But Shannan Martin’s words drove the question deeper into my heart:

“God got busy shrinking the world as I knew it down to a pinhole… Rather than feeling stuck in a problem-sodden world I would never be able to fix, God was caring for my soul by pointing me toward my corner of it and asking me to believe it was enough.”

That challenged me.
Was it enough? Could it be enough?
If I stayed in America—in Mansfield, Ohio—for the rest of my life, would that be enough?

I was thinking about the weekend I was at a junior high retreat. I led a small group of sixth-grade girls. It was exhausting and life-giving all at once—middle schoolers have endless energy, and I drank an alarming amount of coffee.

But that question kept echoing in my mind:
If you stayed here forever, would it be enough?

Would listening, loving, and pointing these girls toward Jesus be enough?
It’s not as extraordinary as helping starving orphans in Mexico or serving in Africa. It doesn’t feel heroic.

Would sacrificing sleep to love a girl who doesn’t know what safe love looks like be enough?
Would a hug, a smile, a compliment be enough for a girl who never feels like she’s good enough?

I say I’m content with staying, but I wasn’t sure I believed it—until one girl wrapped her arms around me and held on like I was her lifeline. I saw the weight she was carrying, and it broke me.

Middle school is confusing and heavy and lonely. Holding her, wishing I could carry some of that weight for her, I felt something shift in me.

I started to believe this might be enough.

This “ordinary” life.
This quiet, unseen ministry.
This corner of the world.

Shannan Martin writes:

“In a world that pushes us toward bigger, better, more costly and refined, seeing the humble as radiant is an act of holy resistance.”

That line won’t leave me. Faithfulness in the small, the quiet, the overlooked—it’s holy resistance.

This is my corner of the world.
MCS. Rehab. These girls. My Bible study. Mansfield.

My heart is still scattered across Ukraine and so many places around the globe. But this—right now—this is where God has placed me.

Sitting on the sidewalk with that girl, holding her, I started to believe that this is enough.

So if you need me, you’ll find me circled around a bonfire, loving the people in my corner of the world—finally believing that ordinary is enough.

What You Don’t See On My Good Days

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Life Is Hard… and I’m Still Here

I’m tired.
Tired of life feeling like so much work.
Tired of the fact that “doing anything” takes more energy than most people will ever know.
Tired of living with chronic pain.

But at least I’m alive.
And I know that’s probably the last thing anyone expects me to say.

Most days, I put on a brave face. I move through life with a smile, a joke, a “I’m fine!” — but the truth is, I haven’t had a single pain-free day in the last nine years. Not one.

I’m not sharing this for pity. I don’t want that.
I’m sharing it because I promised myself I’d be authentic this year.

Nothing I’ve accomplished has been handed to me. I’ve worked for all of it — as a mom, a wife, a student, a professional, a daughter, a sister, and a friend. People often say they don’t know how I manage it all. Honestly? Some days I don’t know either. I just… do it. Because I don’t have another choice.

But I want people to understand something: life is not easy for most of us, especially those of us walking through it with chronic illness.

And don’t misunderstand me — I love my life. I am grateful for it. But that doesn’t mean I don’t wish more days were less pain-filled, less exhausting, less “push through and hope I don’t break.”

I have more good days than bad ones now, but the bad days feel heavier — maybe because everyone expects me to be “normal” again. Maybe because I expect it of myself.

The last decade looks nothing like the future I imagined when I graduated college. But life has taught me more than I ever asked for, and God has used my story in ways I can see… and in ways I haven’t even discovered yet.

Life is rough.
God is good.
Both can be true.

Boots and Crutches

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This has been the most trying season-and it’s only been a week.

One week. I don’t know how I’m going to make it 6 weeks. 

This season is hard-so hard-for many reasons.

  •  I have to depend on others for even the most basic things. It’s humbling. It brings life into perspective. I’ve been here before-after my accident-but it’s different this time. I’m used to being the one taking care of everyone and everything, not being the person that’s being helped. I have a husband and son depending on me which makes this season that much harder.
  • I miss work. I’m getting stir crazy doing less because I physically cannot do more. I love my job in that every day I get the privilege to be a part of people’s stories-the hard and the holy. I dearly miss my coworkers. 
  • There’s few things that I can do around the house which means everything including Atlas is falling on my husband. He has tackled this season with grace and patience. He has embraced taking care of me. I chose a good one 🙂

There have also been sweet moments. 

  • Forced rest. I have been going a mile a minute since before Atlas was born. It seems like a higher power decided that I needed to take a break and not do everything at once.
  • I actually can spend a little bit more time working on school and my internship. I’m learning a lot towards my degree and life. Learning never stops even when you break your foot.
  • God loves you through simple things like His church bringing by meals. I know there is a lot of pressure to go on the mission field, and I support missions, but there is subtle grace in supplying people with dinner. This season has been rough but the church has surrounded us. Maybe missional living is just doing the next right thing with eyes open to see the needs of your neighbor. 
  • Atlas has been surprisingly gentle. He doesn’t understand why mama can’t pick him up or chase him, but he love the knee scooter and he has gently patted “mama’s boot”.